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  • Writer's pictureCici.B


Updated: Oct 9, 2023

So many people say they want healthy relationships, yet will cringe at, and even rebuke the idea of being vulnerable. Meanwhile, healthy relationships cannot be fostered without vulnerability.

We tend to think of vulnerability as such a negative thing because we’ve heard it so many times in negative sentences:

“He took advantage of my vulnerability.”

“He was looking for a woman who was vulnerable so he could control her.”

“She preyed on vulnerable men to get money out of them.”

“In one of my most vulnerable moments, the woman who I thought was my best friend stabbed me in the back.”

But vulnerability is so much more than the people who abuse it. Vulnerability is the thing we have to be in order to show up as our true, authentic self.

Does it suck to share our most intimate stories, details, and thoughts with people only for things to not work out with them in the end, leaving us to feel that pain in our hearts and shattering of our egos? Yes, what the fu.. Duh. It sucks a big bag of not so pretty dicks.

So while using discernment absolutely needs to be an important part of how we navigate through our lives, walking with an understanding that not every story ends in heartbreak and crushed egos needs to be just as important…because not every story comes to an end at all.

If we don’t ever take the chance of being vulnerable with the people who we say we want to grow and build with, how will we ever experience the part of the story with them that never ends?

Vulnerability is a beautiful thing.

Don’t allow the people who make it ugly for themselves, make it ugly for you.

Food for thought. Finish your plate and go be great.

P.S I'm 38 now, and in a very happy, healthy relationship. However, I spent the majority of twenties in a few pretty toxic ones. If you want to read about my journey, you can click here and grab my books. Sometimes just knowing that another woman has been where you are, and made it through, can make all the difference in the world.

Much love,


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