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The 5 Biggest Dating Mistakes (And How to Stop Making Them)

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Dating can be fun, but let’s be real—it can also feel like a never-ending rollercoaster of confusion, disappointment, and “why am I even doing this?” moments. If you’ve been wondering why things never quite go the way you hoped, chances are, you might be making one (or more) of these common dating mistakes.


No judgment—most of us weren’t exactly given a Dating for Dummies manual (though honestly, I wrote the next best thing—more on that later). The good news? Once you recognize the patterns that keep tripping you up, you can finally break the cycle and start dating with confidence, clarity, and a little more peace of mind. Let’s get into it.


1. Ignoring Red Flags (Because You See Their Potential)


Oof. Let’s just start with a big one, shall we?

We’ve all been there. A man shows you exactly who he is, and instead of taking it at face value, you think, “Well… maybe he just needs time. Maybe I can help him grow. Maybe he doesn’t mean to be inconsistent—he’s just been through a lot.”


Girl. If “potential” was enough to build a healthy relationship, half of us would be married to men who still sleep on air mattresses and can’t text back.

The reality? What he could be doesn’t matter. Who he is right now does. If his words and actions don’t align, if he’s inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or straight-up toxic—your job isn’t to “wait it out” or “fix it.” Your job is to recognize that this isn’t what you want and walk away.


🔹 How to Stop This: Believe actions, not excuses. If a man shows you he lacks integrity, consistency, or emotional maturity—believe him the first time.


2. Thinking Chemistry = Compatibility


Just because the conversation flows, the laughs are endless, and the physical attraction is fire doesn’t mean he’s actually right for you.

Too many women mistake a strong connection for long-term potential, only to find out later that they have completely different values, priorities, and emotional capacities.

Listen—chemistry can fake you out. That spark? It might just be familiar trauma patterns keeping you hooked on the wrong kind of excitement.


🔹 How to Stop This: Chemistry matters, but it’s not the foundation of a healthy relationship. Start asking yourself: Does this man make me feel emotionally safe? Are our values aligned? Does he show up consistently? Attraction is easy. Compatibility is the real flex.


3. Over-Investing Too Soon


You just met him, and suddenly, he’s the main character in your group chat. You’re adjusting your schedule for him, prioritizing his needs, and mentally picking out baby names… all before he’s even made it clear what he wants with you.


Slow. It. Down.


One of the biggest dating mistakes women make is giving “boyfriend benefits” before the commitment exists. Over-investing too soon creates an imbalance where you’re doing all the emotional work while he’s… well, just enjoying the ride.


🔹 How to Stop This: Let men show you who they are over time. Match energy, don’t overextend. Let commitment come before deep emotional (or physical) investment.


4. Not Setting Clear Boundaries (Because You Don’t Want to Seem ‘Difficult’)


Ever let something slide because you didn’t want to “ruin the vibe”?

A man crosses a line, disrespects your time, or disregards your feelings, and instead of checking him, you rationalize it.


  • “Maybe I’m just overthinking it…”

  • “I don’t want to seem too sensitive…”

  • “If I say something, what if he pulls away?”


Girl, listen to me: If speaking up makes a man lose interest, he was never worth your time in the first place.


🔹 How to Stop This: Boundaries are there to protect you, not push men away. If a man can’t respect them, that’s his problem—not yours. Stop shrinking yourself to keep people comfortable. The right person will respect and appreciate your standards.


5. Dating from a Place of Fear Instead of Confidence

This one is deep.

Too many women date with an underlying fear of loss, rather than with the confidence that they’re bringing something valuable to the table.


  • Fear of being alone.

  • Fear of “missing out” on a good guy.

  • Fear of being too picky.

  • Fear of never finding love again.


And that fear? It leads to settling, staying in situations too long, and accepting less than what you truly deserve.


🔹 How to Stop This: Date from a place of abundance, not scarcity. You’re not out here waiting to be chosen. You are the prize. And once you truly believe that, you’ll stop entertaining anything that doesn’t align with your value.


So, What’s Next?


If any (or all) of these mistakes hit home, don’t stress—you’re not alone. The truth is, we were never really taught how to date with clarity, confidence, and boundaries.


That’s exactly why I wrote Girl, Read This Before Your Next Date—because I wish someone had handed me this wisdom before I wasted time on the wrong men.

Inside, we’re having the real conversations about dating that no one ever had with us:


✨ Why we keep repeating the same patterns (and how to finally break free).

✨ How to set boundaries that actually stick—without feeling guilty.

✨ The difference between dating from confidence vs. dating from fear (this one changes everything).

✨ What it really means to attract a relationship that aligns with who you are.


If you’re ready to stop settling and start dating with clarity, this is the reset you’ve been looking for.




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