Years ago, I was talking to my aunt about a shitty relationship I was in. At one point I said, “We just have so much history together, you know?” - Now why the hell did I say that? Lol!
That lady looked at me in my eyes for a solid 40 seconds before replying, “History of what? Arguing? His disrespect? You always taking him back? The chaos? The headaches? Your stress? Your constant tears of embarrassment? This is the malarkey that you call ‘history’ you’re fighting to hold onto?” She sucked her teeth, then took a sip of her tea while I tried my hardest to swallow the stinging lump that had formed in my throat.
I wanted to cry. Not because she had said anything wrong…but because she had said everything right.
“The truth hurts.” — A saying we’ve all heard and regurgitated a million times.
That day, my Aunts bluntness taught me a lesson that, unbeknownst to me at the time, would help me grow, flourish, and thrive the real way, and that lesson was: The truth only hurts when you have a bad habit of lying to yourself.
My Aunt may not have always said the things I wanted to hear, but she always said the things that I needed to hear…and I love her for that.
So, if you have a family member or a friend who has a good habit of always telling you the truth—cherish them. Those are the people who truly love you.
Food for thought. Finish your plate and go be great.
P.S I'm 38 now, and am in a very happy, healthy relationship; however, I spent the majority of twenties in a few pretty toxic ones. If you want to read about my journey, you can click here and grab my books. Sometimes just knowing that another woman has been where you are and made it through, can make all the difference in the world.
Much love,
